Safety and Security are not the same things. When you're safe, you aren't in danger. When you're secure, you don't think you're in danger. That leads to four potential states for any part of our lives:

• Safe and Secure: we are safe and we feel safe, like my kids feel when they're at home, behind a locked door, reading a book with their black belt dad

•Safe, but not secure: being safe, but not feeling safe, like a child in bed afraid of a monster in the closet

•Secure, but not safe: feeling safe even though you're not, for example driving while drunk

•Neither safe nor secure: not safe, and knowing you're not safe, like when you realize you're being followed

Of those four states, the most dangerous is when you're secure, but not safe. That's when we're most vulnerable, and unfortunately a state parents spend too much time in. Spencer Coursen has spent his life as a protector. First as a big brother, then in the army, then in a long career of executive protection. His book "The Safety Trap" explores the most common places where people are secure, but not safe, and gives simple, important, and practicable advice on how to avoid those situations.

Spencer and I put together a two-part interview where we discuss the ten most common safety misconceptions, the truth behind them, and how to disarm those particular safety traps for ourselves and our famlies. Join us for an enlightening conversation, then hop over to Spencer's podcast "Coursen's Corner" for Part Two.